December 14, 2013

Our Marriage Timeline

22 years of marriage, juxtaposed from a clinical perspective, which is what divorce does:

We were married on Saturday, October 15, 1988 at approximately 10 A.M. and her divorce was finalized on Friday, October 15th, 2010 at approximately 2 P.M. Thus our marriage had a "life" of:

8035 days, 4 hours, 0 minutes and 0 seconds

Or broken down further:

694,238,400 seconds
11,570,640 minutes
192,844 hours
8035 days (rounded down)
1147 weeks (rounded down)

If one includes the timeline from one marriage to the next, our marital life calculates thus, (assuming a 10 A.M. wedding ceremony):

9191 days, 0 hours, 0 minutes and 0 seconds

Or broken down further:

794,102,400 seconds
13,235,040 minutes
220,584 hours
9191 days
1313 weeks

And of course, there are the ten children to throw into the mix above...

I am not being morbid or stewing over what cannot - by human standards - be changed, but as this is what divorce is and does, it deserved a hearing of sorts. This is what our society has come to: marriages - including Catholic marriages - are nothing but timelines stretching from one marital relationship to the next. 

Divorce is great. Divorce is good. Embrace divorce. Yeah, right...

Divorce is a sucking wound that continually gasps for air, but all that is done is to throw more sulfa powder on it with a fresh bandage and call it "good" and "necessary" and is "tolerated" for the "good of the children" - until that bandage becomes saturated with the blood of "marital unhappiness" and it goes through a new cycle of remove-replace-repair. 

This is a war, people...don't you understand that?

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