April 6, 2014

Orwell's Picnic ~: Abandonment issues

Orwell's Picnic ~: Abandonment issues

Hillary Jane White has a good post on abandonment issues, tied to Benedict XVI's resignation and No Fault Divorce. I did not know she was a victim of divorce, agree with her comments on both, especially her final ones:

"Abandonment by a parent is something that kind of sticks with you. And we have a whole western world now living permanently in a state of psycho-emotional post-divorce trauma."

I can't begin to imagine what it is like for a child to face the divorce of their parents. My own parents had a contentious marriage most of their lives, but stuck with it for the sake of their kids. Theirs was a generation that did not need to go find themselves ...they found what they needed within their marriage eventually - a deep Friendship to the end of their lives. Most of my children have been racked by this divorce, largely from being forced to choose one parent over another - and my weakness at the beginning in not defending this family better against NFD. Lesson learned and a lesson to pass along...if any will listen.

"This might not have been the best possible historical moment for him to decide to go "find himself" or practice piano."

I, like many others, look upon the Papacy as a "til Death We Do Part" wedding vow. Anyone can "resign" from a marriage via no-fault divorce, but that doesn't mean it is in the best interests of all involved, no matter how passionate a reason(s) is(are) set forth (if it needs to be said at all here, any form of abuse is the exception). The Papacy is the marriage, the Bride is the Church...you don't resign. You don't give up on your family, even if it means the sacrifice of your very life. It is an inherent, albeit unspoken, vow one assumes when you say "I Do" before God and Spouse. 

Still, even after the "divorce", we should continue our prayers for the "spouse", whether it be a former Pope or a former-spouse-wife-partner-lover-mother-of-your-children. 

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