A snippet of my email to the editor that I asked to be passed along to the author, commending the article...
"Another of these mostly silent heroes is - as you wrote - the "...faithful spouse, a loving parent..." who continues to defend (1) a marriage ravaged by divorce and / or annulment and (2) the children, who have been torn asunder by its inherent evil. As Respondents, we have no defense in civil court to contest an unwanted - and many times unwarranted - divorce that even the most simple-minded of reasonable men can conclude will bring nothing but decimation and destruction to the very core of society - the Family. And more importantly, the children of those families, who will bear its long-term affects well into their adult lives. We have no defense against a Petitioner / Spouse who is unwilling to have third-party intervention to preserve a marriage and family. We have no defense against the inevitable Parent-Child estrangement brought about by too much transparency to children who have neither the maturity nor the understanding to process. We have no defense against a society who for generations, has been educated with the fallacy of associating divorce with the Greater Good - meaning the Greater Good for the One, and not for the many.
Even in the Catholic Church, we must continually defend our indissoluble marriages against specious annulments that make a mockery of the vows spoken years - or in my case, decades - earlier. From the seemingly tacit approval of divorce by the Hierarchy through the ignoring of Canon Law that proscribes intervention to preserve the first marriage, we wage a David vs Goliath battle to preserve our marriages and families against the entrenched notion of the Greater Good for the One, at the expense of the many. We wage a battle that seeks nothing but forgiveness, reconciliation and renewal to our spouses, but loose the war because it favors Passions rather than Reason. But regardless of our loss, we continue to Love our Spouse and Honor the Vows of our first and only marriage and continue to Love our children despite the Parent-Child estrangements. Ultimately, we continue to "Stand and Deliver" on our vows "...to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, til death we do part." We wage a seemingly un-winnable battle in defense of our Sacramental Marriages, but continue the fight because our Moral Principles and the Greater Good demand as much. Those who do not; those who so easily acquiesce to the modern notion "to run away and fight another day", in my opinion, were not ready for the demands of marriage or parenthood. If ones Marriage, Spouse and Family can be so easily sacrificed to the gods of divorce with little or no defense, then it is no wonder that Society has so easily acquiesced to the neutering of Traditional Marriage."
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