May 15, 2014

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OK...I am a sucker for quizzes. This one came via and I make no apologies for what the charts may mean. 

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I am a right social authoritarian
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The Federalist: Is Divorce Bad For Children?

The answer to the question above is: YES!! 

Divorce has always been about adult "personal choices", about adult "what's best for the kids", about the adults "moving on", about adults "finally finding the happiness in marriage" they missed out on in their former marriage of 1 or 5 or 15 - or in my case - 22 years. Adults, adults, adults... Where is the concern for kids in a divorce?  Where do the needs of one or both parents end and the needs of the kids begin? When do "...the needs of the many..." outweigh "...the needs of the one..." to quote Mr. Spock. 

D.C. McAllister, has blown the facade off of the "good divorce" meme in an article posted at the Federalist, but originally posted at Ricochet. She skewers an article from Scientific American that, in my opinion, does nothing but paint a smile on divorce and the kids who bear its affects the remainder of their lives. While I don't doubt the conclusions of the study referenced in the Scientific American article, I've read of too many others to the contrary, let alone living with my own experiences, that totally negate the findings of the study.  You can't find good in an action that, in and of itself, destroys the safety and security of one of the three Catholic Marriage bonum - children. But - though in a way its defender and lest you think me a heartless bastard - I know there are valid reasons for a divorce, even in the Catholic Church. Physical abuse, substance abuse, danger to life and limb from a spouse and/or parent - these are no brainers and need no defending. Those situations aren't what I write against, for one study pegs domestic abuse as responsible for only 29% of divorces.  It is "irreconcilable differences" that are the majority - over 80%. 

Nope, divorce is evil and will always remain so in the vast majority of cases, in my opinion. You can't make something out to be a "good" which has naturally injurious results to the innocent as its main by-product. Remember the words of Our Lord: "But he that shall scandalize one of these little ones that believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone should be hanged about his neck, and that he should be drowned in the depth of the sea."  (Matthew 18:6

An excerpt is below. Click on the article title or the link at the bottom to read it in full:

In 1999, my children’s world crumbled. After 11 years of marriage, my husband and I divorced. The security my children had always known disappeared—their childhood marred, and their teenaged years scarred with wounds that reopen at every holiday, every sports banquet, every graduation.
The guilt is a burden I have lived with for years. I’m reminded of it every day as I look into my children’s eyes and see a hardness and pain that I never had as a child. I lived carefree in the comfort of my parents’ love. This is a gift I never gave my children. Instead, I showered them with the curses of a divorced life, the mixed loyalties of remarriage, and the travails of a blended family that never really blends.
So when I opened the pages of Scientific American and read an article titled, “Is Divorce Bad for Children?—The breakup may be painful, but most kids adjust well over time,” I couldn’t help but instinctively grasp for relief from my guilt—guilt that is particularly poignant for a conservative who knows full well that one of the great plagues on our nation is the decline of the family.
From the Scientific American:
Parents who split have reasons for hope. Researchers have found that only a relatively small percentage of children experience serious problems in the wake of divorceor, later, as adults. In this column, we discuss these findings as well as factors that may protect children from the potentially harmful effects of divorce.

Divorce affects most children in the short run, but research suggests that kids recover rapidly after the initial blow. In a 2002 study psychologist E. Mavis Hetherington of the University of Virginia and her then graduate student Anne Mitchell Elmore found that many children experience short-term negative effects fromdivorce, especially anxiety, anger, shock and disbelief. These reactions typically diminish or disappear by the end of the second year. Only a minority of kids suffer longer.

Most children of divorce also do well in the longer term. In a quantitative review of the literature in 2001, sociologist Paul R. Amato, then at Pennsylvania State University, examined the possible effects on children several years after a divorce. The studies compared children of married parents with those who experienceddivorce at different ages. The investigators followed these kids into later childhood, adolescence or the teenage years, assessing their academic achievement, emotional and behavior problems, delinquency, self-concept and social relationships. On average, the studies found only very small differences on all these measures between children of divorced parents and those from intact families, suggesting that the vast majority of children endure divorce well.
I have to admit that after reading the article, I didn’t feel any hope. That’s because I didn’t believe it. No matter what Scientific American says, I knew that divorce is bad for children. I knew it because I’ve seen it, I’ve lived it.

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