July 21, 2014

Boromir's Death and Faithful Spouses

Boromir's death. It was the defining moment of The Fellowship of the Ring. In that one story arc, was summed up the whole of the Fellowship - Selflessness. Frodo's conviction to destroy the One Ring even at the cost of his life. Sam's conviction to defend Frodo's life at the cost of his own. Aragorn's conviction to defend them all with his. But it was Boromir's conviction - one made AFTER his fall -  that truly defined the Fellowship, in my opinion. His character could have easily ran away, so discouraged was he that he had no hope of redemption - especially with Frodo, who was obviously deeply affected by the treason of Boromir to the Fellowship's quest. Boromir was left sniveling and groveling on the forest floor, for Pride and Selfishness knows no rank or caste - it covers the noble as well as the peasant. They simply rejoice the more with the noble because the fall of nobles is greater compared to others.

But, Boromir did not fall completely. He recognized and acknowledged his errors and sought Frodo's forgiveness - and his own redemption. But his redemption was not to come with Frodo, but with Merry and Pippin, whose capture at the hands of the Uruk-hai warriors was quickly looming. Boromir - seemingly broken, confused and weak in the midst of his sorrow - ran headlong into the battle to protect the two Hobbit's from their impending doom. Alone and unafraid, devoid of any help from his companions, he fought valiantly in the defense of those under his care and against all odds of survival - for such was a vocation he simply could not walk away from, no matter the cost. Duty. Honor. Selflessness. 

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THUD! The first arrow comes unexpectedly. Borimir is stunned and drops to his knees, but only for a moment and then rises to continue the battle... 

The first arrow of mistrust and lack of faith between spouses has been released. The wounding begins and festers between two spouses who remain silent in their pain.

THUD! The second arrow flies and Boromir is brought to his knees once more. He falls, then rises slowly. He is done. Or is he? With an inner strength known only to the courageous, he rises a second time to defend those under his care. He fights with but raw courage now, his strength waning from the wounds he now bears...

The second arrow of doubtful Love of spouse and children has been released. The wound grows deeper now and more painful. The hurt, doubt and confusion becomes hardened in those who are Loved.

THUD! The third arrow flies and Boromir drops to his knees for the final time. His strength is spent. He has nothing left to fight with. All is lost. Or is it? As Lurtz, the Uruk-hai leader, stands before him to issue the final blow, Boromir looks up. You can see it in his face, as he summons every last ounce of courage and strength, every last drop of duty and honor. In those eyes, you can see his piercing reply: "Finish it, NOW! I have kept my faith...my honor...my duty! I have won, you pitiful creature!"... 

The third arrow of the breech of fidelity and permanency has been released. There is no longer the need to fight, no need for the sacrifice of self. No one who was being defended cares anyway, so just let it go! But, No! That will never be done...cannot be done. A vow was made that cannot be broken. Those he will protect until death now look into the eyes that are saying what they may never understand: I have kept my faith...my honor...my duty! I have won... 

Whether Noble or Parent, we cannot walk away from that which was willingly chosen, without our leaving a gaping wound within ourselves that can never be healed. Such are those Spouses who choose to remain Faithful by continuing to Live and to Honor their vows after divorce and annulment - true Knights of Gondor and true Shield-Maidens of Rohan. 

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Duty. Honor. Selflessness. Despite their failings. Despite contentious spousal relations. Despite the hurt caused to children. Despite the unrequited Love that seeks a recipient. Despite the papers that say they are free to do otherwise. They cannot walk away from what was vowed. They cannot walk away from the Sacrament. They cannot walk away from their vocation. They fight for a marriage with no hope of an earthly victory. They fight for a marriage with no hope of earthly redemption. They fight for a marriage simply because it is the right thing to do before Christ, to whom they owe First Allegiance, even before Spouse or Children. They stay Faithful because they continue to Love... 

So it has been written...so it shall be done.

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