August 10, 2014

Melissa Moschella: A Time for Heroism

This is an excellent article from The Witherspoon Institute by Melissa Moschella on heroism. I believe that among those listed must also be included those who continue to defend and to live their first Marriages. An excerpt and the link to the full article is below. I also emailed a response to the editors, part of which I have included below the link.

A Time for Heroism

If we hope to protect the unborn, promote sexual integrity, preserve the truth about marriage, and defend the freedom of religious conscience in our country, we cannot simply live good lives—we must live heroic ones.
Perhaps there are times and places in the history of the world in which it is possible to go through life as just an ordinary, good person—a faithful spouse, a loving parent, a concerned citizen, a regular church-goer, an honest and industrious professional—leading a normal, quiet life, not making waves or standing out in any way. Perhaps. But the United States of America in the year 2014 is not one of those times and places. Rather, in our contemporary society, the only way to be good is to be heroic. Failing to act with heroism inevitably makes us complicit in grave evils.
Human life has been seriously devalued in our society. Millions of innocents are cruelly killed before they ever see the light of day. Other children areconceived in ways that reduce them to commodities, in which only the strongest and fittest are given a chance while those passed over are stored infreezers or used for research and killed in the process. There has been a denigration of the great gift of human sexuality into an instrument for hedonistic self-satisfaction.
These trends have brought devastation and tragedy in their wake: deep psychological wounds and physical illness wrought by the hook-up culture; a drastic rise in poverty among single mothers and their children caused by permissive divorce laws and the attitude that sex and babies are completely unrelated; and finally, profound and pervasive harms to children who are the voiceless victims of family breakdown. 

A snippet of my email to the editor that I asked to be passed along to the author, commending the article...

"Another of these mostly silent heroes is - as you wrote - the "...faithful spouse, a loving parent..." who continues to defend (1) a marriage ravaged by divorce and / or annulment and (2) the children, who have been torn asunder by its inherent evil. As Respondents, we have no defense in civil court to contest an unwanted - and many times unwarranted - divorce that even the most simple-minded of reasonable men can conclude will bring nothing but decimation and destruction to the very core of society - the Family. And more importantly, the children of those families, who will bear its long-term affects well into their adult lives. We have no defense against a Petitioner / Spouse who is unwilling to have third-party intervention to preserve a marriage and family. We have no defense against the inevitable Parent-Child estrangement brought about by too much transparency to children who have neither the maturity nor the understanding to process. We have no defense against a society who for generations, has been educated with the fallacy of associating divorce with the Greater Good - meaning the Greater Good for the One, and not for the many. 

Even in the Catholic Church, we must continually defend our indissoluble marriages against specious annulments that make a mockery of the vows spoken years - or in my case, decades - earlier. From the seemingly tacit approval of divorce by the Hierarchy through the ignoring of Canon Law that proscribes intervention to preserve the first marriage, we wage a David vs Goliath battle to preserve our marriages and families against the entrenched notion of the Greater Good for the One, at the expense of the many. We wage a battle that seeks nothing but forgiveness, reconciliation and renewal to our spouses, but loose the war because it favors Passions rather than Reason. But regardless of our loss, we continue to Love our Spouse and Honor the Vows of our first and only marriage and continue to Love our children despite the Parent-Child estrangements. Ultimately, we continue to "Stand and Deliver" on our vows " have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, til death we do part." We wage a seemingly un-winnable battle in defense of our Sacramental Marriages, but continue the fight because our Moral Principles and the Greater Good demand as much. Those who do not; those who so easily acquiesce to the modern notion "to run away and fight another day", in my opinion, were not ready for the demands of marriage or parenthood. If ones Marriage, Spouse and Family can be so easily sacrificed to the gods of divorce with little or no defense, then it is no wonder that Society has so easily acquiesced to the neutering of Traditional Marriage."

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