September 24, 2017


My children were all Consecrated to Our Lady at their baptisms, so I have no doubt that their inevitable Salvation is therefore assured. Whatever wrongs or errors they may presently hold - all are adults, with the youngest one becoming so this January - that keeps high the wall between us, Our Lady does not long leave Her children in that state and will come to their aid, and this repeatedly so. And oftentimes without being asked. There will be for each of them a "comes the dawn" moment to drive home this Truth, and they will wonder how they could have been so stupid for so long. They will still struggle to be sure, but they will struggle with a renewed sense of their eventual Salvation by their Blessed Mother. 

That being said, I sometimes still fear that at least two of my children may never fully drop the wall, despite the reasons for its erection having long since been disproved. Too much time may have elapsed; too little urging to talk out the hurt. Too many parental mistakes made at the beginning. There has been too little of "me" into their lives over the last few years to any longer retain hope that I can have any real positive influence. In large part because they moved 600 miles away and I simply could not afford the bi-weekly travel expenses, even to a halfway point, to keep alive the parent-child relationship.

I have become a stranger to these children. 

I have become only a "biological" Father in some photograph.

I have become just someone they used to know.

The saving Grace in all of this is that I have been granted over the intervening years a thawing and/or repairing of parent-child relationships. I have been privileged to once again being a residential parent, this made all the more striking as the request came from the estranged children themselves to live with me (they wanted to finish high school with their friends, but still unthinkable in the early stages.) Granted, it wasn't all lovey-dovey amongst us, but it did afford some opportunities for discussions, which should have been ongoing since day one anyway. But the lines of communication have remained open with most even after graduations. And now, once more, another has come home to jumpstart their career in more familiar - and missed - surroundings. 

Is not all this the work of a Most Blessed Mother, trying to correct errant children - whether Parent or Child? 

It doesn't take a Theologian to tell me to nod my head "Yes". 

All it takes is my Heart, my Faith and my Love.

AVE MARIA, gratia plena, Dominus tecum. Benedicta tu in mulieribus, et benedictus fructus ventris tui, Iesus. Sancta Maria, Mater Dei, ora pro nobis peccatoribus, nunc, et in hora mortis nostrae. Amen.

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