Parental love in its purest form is not unlike iron: strong; unbreakable; unyielding. It is the unseen skeletal framework that hides beneath a parent's exterior and shields its immensity from public view. And that none but God truly sees and understands (despite the many psychologists who try. If they did, all writings on the subject would be carbon copies of each other, which would testify to its objective truth and its author: God). Throughout our lives, various storms and battles asail this impregnable fortress, leaving in its wake not the successful capitulation and overthrow of the inhabitant, but the scar tissue that speaks of the many hard fought battles to protect this most valuable of assets: Parental Love. The reality, however, of this mortal world has lead some to voluntarily capitulate and to leave their fortress, but by and far the vast majority do not fail - themselves nor their children.
This point is well made courtesy of an analogy from LOTR: The Return of the King:
Aragorn (our Conscience) bursts into Theoden's (The Holy Ghost's) war room meeting to announce that the beacons of Minas Tirith (our prayers) have been lit and that Gondor (the Parent[s]) have called for aid. Theoden, after a slight pause (fortunately for us, we know that the Holy Ghost would never pause), issues the marching orders for the Rohirrim (His Seven Gifts) to vanquish the Orcs (the devils).
So...you can hopefully understand one of the many hidden treasures of the Sacrament of Confirmation that remain unneeded for most Parents, but is nonetheless readily available, if only it is asked for.
It is no easy task for a parent to continue to love an estranged child; it is near impossible for a parent to do so without a fervent prayer life. I myself have come close numerous times and, but for the Grace of God, may have succumbed - to mine and my childrens detriment. That I am still here, still loving, still battling and still sustaining scars - is a testament not to me, but to Our Lord Jesus Christ and the Holy Ghost.
Do not weary, my fellow Catholics, of the parental battles, especially the battles associated with divorce and children. It is a truth that this is a battle that you may perhaps never win; at the least, it will become a stalemate between you and your children. But you can be assured that you will never lose as long as you "light the beacons of Minas Tirith".
And never lose Faith and Hope that reconciliation could occur at a most unexpected time, as befits Our Lord's Divine Providence.
Pray the Rosary. Love your Children. Stay close to the Sacred Hearts of Jesus and Mary.
Walk His and Her Calvary as you walk your own and you will never lose the hope nor the strength that is needed to complete the journey.
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